Public Speaking – You Must Have a Good Sound System

on Dec 31 in Uncategorized

If it is hard to hear, people won’t listen. When speaking in public you must have an excellent sound system because some of the time you will be speaking while your audience is laughing. Stand-up comics need good sound too, but they are a little different because they tell a joke, then people laugh (they hope). They tell another joke, then people laugh. A good public speaker will be rolling right along making points, showing product features, telling stories, and dropping one-liners and must be heard all the while.

A humorous speech demands a better sound system than a serious speech. In a serious talk, words can be missed and the main message can still be very clear. In humor it doesn’t work that way. If key words are missed in a joke or story, it will ruin the humor. No one will laugh and you will look like a giant goober.

The need for a thorough sound check is another good reason to be in the room early. You need to check the microphone to make sure it works. You need to check to see how far your mouth should be from the microphone. You need to know how loudly you should talk. Realize that during your check the audio level should be very loud. People will absorb the sound once they get into the room.

Make sure the sound system is carrying to all parts of the room. If someone is speaking prior to you, try to go to the back of the room to see how he or she is coming across. If you have someone at the presentation with you, have them signal from the back of the room if changes are needed in the public address system after you have started.

If the amplifier controls aren’t handy after you have started, you can adjust the sound by changing the distance between your mouth and the microphone and/or increasing or decreasing the loudness of your voice. Try not to use the latter method too often so you don’t strain your vocal mechanism.

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Tom Antion is the author of the best selling presentation skills book “Wake ‘em Up Business Presentations” and “Click: The Ultimate Guide to Electronic Marketing.” Tom has addressed more than 87 different industries and delivered over 2700 paid presentations worldwide.

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Public Speaking – Storytelling Do’s

on Dec 31 in Uncategorized

* Use stories during public speaking engagements to illustrate points and state the point in addition to telling the story. Always make your story relevant to the subject at hand.

* Select stories to match the intelligence, experience, occupation, and age of the audience as well as the nature of the occasion. You don’t want to talk over the heads of the audience members and you don’t want to bore them with stories that are too simple.

* Space stories at intervals to provide a change of pace and to reemphasize your message. Remember from Chapter 5 the listening pattern you want to create in the audience.

* Tell about your troubles, stupidity, or ignorance. People like you when you use self-effacing humor because they see themselves mirrored in your weaknesses.

* Eliminate inconsequential detail. Use the fewest number of words that convey the message in an interesting fashion. Writing the story out will help you see words that can be eliminated without hurting the story.

* Keep your humorous stories short during your public speaking engagements. The size of the laugh is inversely proportional to the number of words used to get to the punchline.

Rule: The longer the story, the funnier it must be. You must make jokes and humorous stories believable up to a point. Use factual, specific details that the audience can relate to, i.e., say the brand name like Lots-o-Suds rather than a laundry detergent. The more truthful and specific the story sounds the more your audience will get caught up in what you say.

* Specify the location of a joke or story. If your story takes place in a restaurant say, “I was at Jerry’s Sub Shop in Rockville, Maryland, the other day.” This gives the audience something concrete to think about, which makes them more involved mentally.

* When crafting a story, use people, places, and things the audience knows. When the audience is familiar with the elements in your story, they will become even more involved. As soon as you mention the company cafeteria, their minds race to the cafeteria to meet you and find out what happens. However, don’t use humor that is too inside. Only a few people will understand it.

* Emphasize the adjectives and verbs in your stories to make them sound more interesting. Try it. Look around where you are right now and describe anything you want. Really put punch behind the adjectives and verbs and see how your description comes to life. Use specific and interesting verbs and adjectives. Say I was exhausted, not I was tired. Say, her head was nodding and drooping, not her head was down.

* Learn your stories. In a normal speech if you forget the exact thing you wanted to say, you can improvise and go on. But if you leave out an important detail in a story or if you accidentally give away the climax too soon, you have a mess on your hands. I tell a story at least 30 times in private before I’ll test it in front of an audience.

* Use true facts from your own life. This makes it easier for you to tell the story because you lived it and you can learn it faster too. Also, someone else can’t steal your story as easily if all the facts have to do with your life.

* Use appropriate emotional language to hook the listener. (Refer to this website’s “Emotional Language”
article for reference.)

* Construct a humorous story so that it concludes abruptly with a climactic word. Don’t utter another syllable or sound after this climactic word. You might squelch the laughter you worked so hard to get.

Exception: Some stories get laughter all along the way. More of these stories are used by humorists who are expected to be funny all the time.

* Work out different lengths of the same story to fit different time segments. (Yes, I’ve snuck a Don’t in the Do’s section.) Don’t memorize your stories word-for-word. This way you won’t feel forced to say every word, every time you tell the story. You can change the length of the story easily by adding or subtracting detail. Super Trick: Have a quotation ready that makes the same point as your story. If your time is shortened, you can cut out a story and replace it with a quote.

* Slant your story to the intended audience. When telling a story to a group of executives you would probably want to use different language and emphasis than if you were telling the same story to a group of secretaries. Change nonessential elements of the story to make a better connection.

* Use terms like Imagine this, Have you ever had an experience where… Let me take you with me to… to draw the audience into your stories.

How do you become a great speaker and get paid for it? Learn the public speaking secrets that can make you $5500 or more per speech! Learn the skills to change other people’s lives forever. It’s easier than you think!

Tom Antion is the author of the best selling presentation skills book “Wake ‘em Up Business Presentations” and “Click: The Ultimate Guide to Electronic Marketing.” Tom has addressed more than 87 different industries and delivered over 2700 paid presentations worldwide.

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Casually Connect? A Real Life Presentation Lesson from Abu Dhabi

on Dec 30 in Uncategorized

“I’m glad you had to speak in your casuals…”

 – DTAC Abu Dhabi Participant

 

Casually Connect? A Real Life Presentation Lesson from Abu Dhabi By Darren LaCroix

 

Ever have lots go wrong on the way to a presentation? Then that leads to even more? How do you handle it? Does it fluster you? Can people in the audience “sense” something is wrong based on your delivery? 

New line of questioning: What if the problem is the best thing that could have happened? 

There I am, on my way to Abu Dhabi to inspire and teach at a conference of fellow speakers. I did not make my flight connection in London so I was re-routed through Bahrain (I’d never been re-routed though another country before). Though I made it there late the night prior to my convention opening, keynote speech…my luggage did not. 

Now, this is not the first time this has happened to me. However this IS the first time I did not get my bags the next day. This time they were promised to arrive overnight. When I woke in the morning my luggage had still not arrived. Though many of my friends following me on Twitter were concerned, I was not. Why didn’t I pack a suit in my carry on? Why didn’t I wear a suit? These are very fair questions which, at this moment, did not matter! 

When we take the stage we are authority figures and should act and dress accordingly. I have always taught my students to dress “one level” above your audience. By this I mean, if the audience is “casual” then dress business casual.  What if I was wrong in that lesson? 

As the opening speaker, and struggling to wake up after thirty hours of travel and a brief sleep, there was no time to buy a new suit. I took a shower, ate breakfast, and proceeded to hack myself shaving with the hotels version of a razor. Ouch! Still, there is no reason to worry. Fellow speakers are the most forgiving and understanding audiences. They are there for my content and to enjoy my enthusiasm. They are not there to judge me (though there will always be some of that going on. It is human nature.) 

As I took the stage, though usually I start with a question, or right into a story, for this speech I felt I needed to acknowledge my situation.  My reason for opening in this manner was due to a multi-cultural audience.  With six countries represented, I felt “clarity” was more important then a dramatic opening. I wanted to make sure they knew I was a professional, and took their conference seriously.

 After explaining the reason I was in jeans, I said, “It does not matter what you are wearing. It matters where your heart is and what the audience leaves with.”  I was okay with it, so they were okay with it. I did not let my “situation” create a barrier between myself and the audience.

 In fact, just the opposite happened. One of the members of the audience pulled me aside and told me he was glad my luggage did not make it. He felt a closer connection to me because of my casual attire. He said, “Sometime suits can separate us.” Wow! That was brilliant, honest, and revealing. I never looked at it from that perspective. 

As a World Champion, individuals can at times put us on a pedestal and think what we accomplished is unattainable by an average person. The goal of my presentation is to inspire people. I’m an average guy that committed himself to learning. Not only that, I made a conscience decision to not try and figure it out on my own, but instead, learn a proven process.

 It is our responsibility to bring hope and inspiration to our subject.

How do you do that? I learned sometimes suits separate, and casuals connect. We must always crave feedback because we may be surprised what the perception of our audience is.

 To answer the “fair questions” I like to travel in jeans, so I do. A suit would crumple in my carry on. I don’t worry about it! It is life, it is part of my business and I’m cool with the consequences! Let’s all be “in the moment” and not worry about being perfect!

 Stage time,

 Darren LaCroix, 2001 World Champion of Public Speaking 

 Copyright 2009 The Humor Institute, Inc. 

Darren LaCroix

 

In 2001, Darren LaCroix, The World Champion of Public Speaking, outspoke 25,000 contestants from 14 countries to win that title. That was just a benchmark. Since that victory, Darren has traveled the world demystifying the process of creating a powerful speech. He has roused audiences in faraway places like Saudi Arabia, China, Oman, Malaysia, and Taiwan with his inspirational journey from first-rate chump to first-class champ, proving anything is possible if you are willing to work for it.

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Why now is THE BEST time to start a Public Speaking Business!?

on Dec 30 in Uncategorized

Why now is THE BEST time to start a Public Speaking Business!?

Do you agree right now people have more problems they need solved?

I’m so tired of people talking about the economy tanking!  Why aren’t more people talking about how they will take better care of themselves, and their families?

“We don’t know what we are going to do?”  Well, stop whining and decide to figure it out! Look for answers.  If you are spending time commiserating about it, you have lost time finding the solution.

Recently I invested in a T. Harv Eker business seminar.  He said there are two economies, “the economy” and “your economy.” It is so true.  Most people in the Public Speaking Business suffered a recent downturn in business.  I didn’t.  Mine went up! It was by a healthy percentage too.

Did “the economy” affect my business?  You betcha!  One of my streams of income was down, no doubt about it.  Instead of whining about that, I invested all year on marketing and giving people what they wanted. Therefore, my biggest stream of income jumped up.

More, now than ever, people are re-discovering there is no such thing as job security.  Due to a new business owner, someone very close to me, in a high level job, was shown the door after 20 years of service.  See, it’s the owners who get to decide.  Business owners choose the direction, and the people who are going to take them there.  The coolest thing about a small business is that it can be done part time, and there are so many tax write offs.

Why not be the business owner? Have you ever thought of having a public speaking business?  What are you waiting for?  Life is short.  The coolest part is there is no building you have to buy, no space you have to rent, and no employees you have to hire. The truth is, the only barrier to entry, is an effective business plan.  It is easier and less expensive now than ever before.  The highest powered marketing tools I use now range from inexpensive to free.

The most important reason now is the best time, is due to the economy. To understand that you must know what business is about.  T. Harv says it best, “An entrepreneur is someone who solves problems for people at a profit.”  The worse the economy is, the more problems people have.  The more problems there are, the more problems there are to be solved.  The more people’s problems you solve, the more you will earn.

The public speaking business is geared perfectly for this, if you understand what you are trying to do.  Solve problems for people.  You are not selling speeches.  Those who do try to sell speeches, fail.  Do I care if I solve someone’s problem with a live speech, or a book, or a new DVD set?  Yes, I do.  I love to speak, but I’m a business man first.  What do people need, and what form do they need it in?  That is why I’m successful.  I’ve never been to Japan, Australia, or New Zealand.  Some of the greatest testimonials I have come from there.  I love speaking, and it is one of the best ways I generate business, even when I’m not being paid.  As Zig Ziglar says, “You can get whatever you want, if you help enough other people get what they want.”

What are you going to speak about?  That’s easy!  What do you know?  What have you accomplished?  What industry have you worked in?  What adversity have you overcome?  You help people from your experience.  Help people with that.  The biggest problem with new people to the public speaking business is undervaluing their own experience.

After almost every speech I give people come up to me and say, “I want to do what you do.”  It became such a common occurrence,  I realized this was a problem I could solve.  After having a public speaking business since 1994, I knew I could help people shorten their learning curve.  Though my first speech was for $75, I learned it the hard way.  So, now I say give me eight hours and I’ll take eight years off your learning curve.  I developed Get Paid to Speak by Next Week® My system takes people who have never gotten a paid speech in their lives and no business experience and shows them the secrets of getting their first checks.  Their first checks have ranged from $250 to $650, some even more!

I show people, using their unique background, how to get their first checks.  There is so much jam packed into this system my students tell me every time they go through it they get new ideas that bring them profit!

Will you take control of your life and your income?  What problems will you help people solve?  The cool thing about this business is that you don’t have to quit your day job to get started.  If you lost your job, then you have more time to get things moving quicker.  Dreams are meant to be achieved!  Start your public speaking business, now.

 

Copyright 2009 The Humor Institute, Inc.

Darren LaCroix

 

In 2001, Darren LaCroix, The World Champion of Public Speaking, outspoke 25,000 contestants from 14 countries to win that title. That was just a benchmark. Since that victory, Darren has traveled the world demystifying the process of creating a powerful speech. He has roused audiences in faraway places like Saudi Arabia, China, Oman, Malaysia, and Taiwan with his inspirational journey from first-rate chump to first-class champ, proving anything is possible if you are willing to work for it.

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Nigeria: State and City police

on Dec 29 in Uncategorized

 

The former President of Nigeria  Olusegun Obasanjo fondly called “ Baba Iyabo” made an attempt to ask the nation if we needed a federal police system at the same time former Governor of Lagos state Asiwaju of Yoruba land Tinubu was advocating for a state police, the issue became so popular that it generated lots of opinions among Nigerians in and out of the country and in my contribution which was titled “ Towards internal Security” which was published online I was advocating for city and county police system similar to what is operated in the United States of America.

 

The article revealed Nigeria police as presently constituted was not only underpaid but under equipped for job in the 21st Century. A police recruit in the state of Texas gross pay is over $48,000  per annum in addition to this pay, if the recruit can speak other languages he earns more than his colleagues, his life insurance is over $250,000 if he dies in the line of his duty, the incentives attached to the job of Police in the state of Texas is so mouth watering that it will be difficult to accept bribe as a police officer and a mere look of a police officer in Dallas County is enough to convince any observer that the officer is not only well paid but also well equipped for the job.

 

The internal security of Nigeria is so broken down that kidnapping is more of an acceptable fashion like we used to read in James Hardly Chase novels with some notable titles like  “ Wants to stay alive? “  Believed violent ‘and Well now my Pretty” which were very popular with my generation in the seventies. Kidnapping as handled by police in those novels revealed how United States of America handled issues of serious nature and how crimes were departmentalized as federal, state and city issues, it revealed how the country was able to move beyond sentiment of federal to allowing state and city to handle crimes.

 

With the above understand, in mind, and actual real situation on the ground, research revealed more than what James Hardly Chase mentioned, it revealed US police system was just as corrupt and under equipped like Nigeria before each state was allowed to have its own police and with only a supervisory role from the FBI. The last administration made a cosmetic approach toward this by establishing the EFCC but failed to remove the federal police system which would have given the supervisory role to EFCC over the state and city police through out the country.

 

The questions in the mind of the readers will be as follows, what will happen to the states and cities that can not afford to set up the police administration right now? Suppose the governors turn the new police system to political control machine? Suppose non indigenes are victimized with state and city police? These are understandable fears of those who will rather look at negative effect than looking at how such problem was handled by nations that had similar problems.

 

Our nature and composition, does not allow us to effectively operate a single federal Police system in a nation with various ethnic compositions, to alley the fear as mentioned above, the laws to give power to state and city to establish police must make it difficult for governors, local government chairmen and city mayors in future to exercise undue influence on the system. The law will allow those states and cities which will  rather have the Federal police to stick with the present system while those states and cities in Lagos, Oyo, Anambra, kano to test the market for the state and city police.

 

The transition to state and city police can not happen overnight for all states  because some will rather stick with what they are used to,  it took the state of Oregon in America 100 years to adopt state police behind the state of Texas. Recruitment must reflect the state composition and federal character before funds can be released by the Federal government, and each state or City police must be subjected to EFCC supervision and when a complex which case can not be solved by the state or the city police the EFCC will move in to reorganize the police system of the state or city for a reasonable period that will be stated by the law.

 

The Present Mobile Police must be under the EFCC to take over any state or city police in case of emergency and the rest of the police force will be re-deployed to operate solely at state level and city that will require their services if they can not be totally employed by the states or cities they can be laid off and such men in uniform can work as security men for companies or private sectors.

 

The Yoruba has an adage “Opo kan ni eyin afaa, Iba je eyo kan ko sa le fi mu musa” meaning “The chief Imam does not need to have lots of functional teeth even if it is one as long as the Imam can pick donut with it” It is very funny, but it is true with the police system we have right now, it is not the numbers of men in uniform but a functional police system which can only be achieved by creating state and city police.

 

The current Federal police system is making a mockery of security in Nigeria, kidnapping today is more of lucrative business than 419 or internet advanced fee fraud, kings, wives and concubines, children and movies stars are being kidnapped on daily basis and the ransom are being announced by the press  like lottery winning games.

 

Finally, unlike what all the doubting “Thomases” will want us to believe on the shortcomings of State and City Police, establishing it, is where the solution to internal security of Nigeria lies, it will not only solve the problem it will put tribal “things” called OPC, Egbesu and area boys out of business, Governors and future Mayors of each city performances will be measured before re-election, State and City police will help to enforce all the local laws passed by the State House of Assembly and those of the local government, to ignore this, is to postpone the evil day, Nigeria Bless Your Hearts

 

 

Zents Kunle Sowunmi

New York USA the author of “Before the Journey became Home”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Delivering a Good Best Man Speech The Dos and Donts

on Dec 28 in Uncategorized

Have you ever delivered a best man speech? It is, for most people, probably the hardest thing to do – only next to getting married. So, if you are a little tense, don’t worry. You are not alone.

Now that I have given you a little heads-up, it is time for some good news. Best man speeches are not as hard as most people think. If you plan well, you can make it a joyous, memorable occasion for you and your friends. So, here is a list of do’s and don’ts to help you prepare for the occasion.

Do’s

1. Plan well in advance. The job of a best man starts with organizing a stag party and ends with delivering a damn good best man speech. In between, he has to take care of little things like looking after the ring, giving a little pep talk to the groom, and acting as a legal witness to the marriage. In short – it is indeed a tough job. So, make sure you plan everything well in advance to avoid any last minute problems..

2. When it comes to best man speeches, research is of paramount importance. Even if you are the best friend of the bride and groom, you cannot possibly know everything about them. So, talk to all your friends, relatives, and everyone related to the wedding to get the dirt. The little stories, funny moments, and the saucy anecdotes they share with you can help you come up with a great speech which pleases everyone.

3. Make sure you mention the names of people who have made the day possible – the parents of the bride and groom, close friends, and relatives who had something to do with the wedding.

Don’ts

1. Do not get drunk. It is true that alcohol can help you lose your inhibitions and all that, but too much alcohol can make you get lose everything – including your dignity. In other words, people will refer to the wedding as ‘the one where the best man was booed out of the building’. So, a couple of drinks max are good enough to get going.

2. Do not reveal embarrassingly personal details about the bride and groom. It is okay to make fun of everyone, but it should not get too personal. A best man speech should be funny and enjoyable, not embarrassing.

3. Do not talk just for the sake of talking. People generally do not come to a wedding expecting to hear the best man talk about every thing under the sun and bore them to death. Your speech should be personal, touching, witty, and, most importantly, short.

 

Now, it doesn’t look that scary, does it? This is pretty much what you need to know about best man speeches. Do your research, plan well, stay relaxed, and deliver a super speech.

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Three Ordinary Faults Persons Make Following to Get Attractive Six Pack Abs

on Dec 25 in Uncategorized

The most ordinary error is failing to understand that you just cannot attain six pack abs that will show if you do not drop the stomach fat that is including them! That is why spot-educating only does not perform. The alteration to this fault is to take in appropriately to go fat down while you instruct the muscle.

There is a useful metabolic pace calculator covered in the agenda. With this, you can extremely precisely and simply work out the suitable quantity of daily caloric eating for your tallness, weight loss objectives and movement level. There is an unbelievable menu plan comprised at the conclusion that you will come across easy, tasty and amusing! As a result, the fact about Abs creates avoiding the primary mistake simple.

Next mistake: a shortage of cardiovascular workout. You do have to act upon few cardio in order to be on fire that belly obese, but you may not understand how you should be doing a cardiovascular workout. Sooner than long period cardio, T.A.A. instructs you through little more suitable first-class intensity ‘interval education’, which you will do in fewer times but with greater a outcome.

Lastly, you have to work again your exercises and educate yourself why chomps and comparable old-school work outs are not moving to offer you the six pack abs. The fact about Abs holds few revolutionary abdominal work outs, which will renovate your entire disjointed center muscles into a particular unit – a tired, washboard stomach.

The Reality of Abs – My Individual Experiment

Subsequent to reading the reality of Abs, I desired to test it for myself to perceive if it resided to the hype. It charges to get a dietary plan that cuts overweight while building grave muscle, cutting-border work outs, which will slice and wave your abs similar to no sit-ups or chomps have ever been talented to, and a couple of or so methods to gear up your metabolism and remain the chubby burning even at the same time as you get sleep.

The fact about Abs assures that if you can attach with this, you will have a place of washboard abs in little less time than you would believe. I planned to realize if this was factual. If you feel like to observe what I considered of the agenda, just read on!

Once I gave the order of the plan, I began the very next daytime. I observed changes inside the first couple of days. I made out the consequences would not approach overnight as I had a civilized level of blubber just about my belly. It received in anticipation of the seventh week prior to, I had purged that coating of fat and my abs were completely observable, with a pleasant rippling result. From the eighth week, I had a totally-defined, washboard’ six-pack. Unnecessary to speak, I was nervous. I could not consider the plan, in fact, performed in addition to it charged!

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Finding it Hard to Prepare a Funny Best Man Speech? Here Are Some Tips to Help You

on Dec 23 in Uncategorized

A funny best man speech is something that everyone enjoys. Delivering a funny, witty, and appealing speech is easy once you understand the key aspects. So, here are some tips to help you prepare your speech.

The most important rule when it comes to delivering a funny best man speech is that you should know your limitations. A lot of people are under the impression that they are so incredibly funny that they could make people laugh by saying anything. This is the reason why you can find a lot of best men cracking jokes that are corny, stale, or otherwise not remotely funny.

You sure do not want to end up like that, do you? Here is what you need to do.

• Do your homework. I know it sounds cliche, but you will be surprised to know that most people take this advice for granted. A funny best man speech should be filled with jokes, stories about the bride and groom, and some nice little anecdotes that you want to share with the crowd. Try to remember the funny moments that you shared with the bride and groom, talk to your friends and relatives and find out what they have to say about them, and use all this information to make your speech funny in an appealing way.

• Do not try too hard to be funny. If your speech is good, people will definitely appreciate it. You do not have to do some sort of physical comedy to make people laugh. A lot of people try too hard to be funny and end up being the butt of the joke at the wedding.

• Here’s an important thing you need to remember – you are a best man, not a standup comedian. Funny best man speeches are not just about jokes. You should thank the people who have made the wedding possible, the parents of the bride and groom, your friends and relatives for making it to the wedding, and you should also say something nice about the couple – why you think they are made for each other and so on. So, do not just concentrate on the jokes. It should be a comprehensive speech.

• There is a thin line between being funny and being silly and embarrassing. Unfortunately, the line is so thin that a lot of people are not able to see it at all. As a best man, you should make sure that the bride and groom enjoy their day fully. So, do not reveal anything that is too personal or embarrassing for the bride or the groom.

• A funny best man speech should be funny for people of all ages. In other words, know your audience. Do not crack lewd jokes or anything that can be considered inappropriate for the guests.

• You should be careful about your body language and your choice of vocabulary. You should not do anything that will send wrong signals to people. Remember – you are the best friend of the groom. If you look bad, it reflects upon him as well.

• It is okay to make fun of the bride and groom in a light hearted manner in your funny best man speeches. But make sure you do not stress on the less attractive habits of the couple. This will make them look bad and make you look even worse. So, the stories you share can be personal, but you should be careful not to cross the line.

There you have it guys. These are some suggestions that will help you prepare funny best man speeches and make your best friend’s wedding more memorable.

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Best Man Speeches The Deadly Sins You Need to Avoid Part 2 of 2

on Dec 23 in Uncategorized

Chances are you have seen a dodgy Best Man Speech, if you have ever watched a romantic-comedy movie. You know the ones, where the best man insults bride, angers the groom, and silences the crowd. Its fine for the movies, but in real life the aftermath will last for more than 97 minutes, and most likely be caught on video forever.

There are 7 common mistakes that are found in those Rom-Com-type situations. To give a good Best Man speech, its best to steer clear of them. Let me list out the remaining three of the 7 Deadly Sins, and continue on from Part 1 where we already covered the first four deadly sins …

#5 Deadly Sin: Making Shock-value Statements

A memorable speech is a good thing, so long as it is for good reasons. Making statements just for shock-value is absolutely out of the question. No exceptions. Be aware of the audience and of their beliefs, and be respectful of them. Of course it is impossible to know everyone’s point of view on every conceivable topic, but you can at least get the gist by asking the Groom and Bride how their guest would respond to certain comments. You may become aware of things that will definitely be a no-go zone.

Having people heckling you throughout your speech is never a good thing, nor is a mass exodus! What may seem funny to you may not be for Grandma, the nieces, nephews or the…Bride or Groom!

#6 Deadly Sin: Stringing Empty Cliches Together

Oh so tempting isn’t it? Looking for inspiration is almost essential to giving a fabulous Best Man Speech. After all, writers, academics, religious leaders, artists, poets among many other professionals have all penned perfect words to sum up how you feel, how the newly married couple feel and everyone’s hopes for them in the future – before you even opened up your laptop!

It is perfectly ok to use these in your speech, just do not overuse them. Cliches became cliches because the phrases were once very good, so much so, that they were overused to the point of losing their meaning and impact. If your speech is created simply by stringing cliches together, it will become the very definition of cliche. That is, trite, unoriginal and not personal. A good Best Man Speech should have a good balance of personal touches and self-reflections, jokes and inspiration from others words.

#7 Deadly Sin: Being Too Drunk

Well duh!!!!!! You would think this is so obvious, but, alas, there are many wedding videos to prove that it isn’t so. A little liquid courage is often the choice of nerve-curbing rituals for confident and non-confident Best Men alike. I do not profess to tell anyone to drink or not drink alcohol. You are you, and you make your own choices. Choose wisely, my friend!

It is very easy to get carried away, going from one, to two, to three drinks… having more courage than the drink before. Even if you are a natural public speaker and don’t have any nerves to curb, be aware of your alcohol consumption before you give your speech. You are essentially representing the Bride and Groom… give them a speech to remember, not one to cringe about every time they hear the word ‘wedding’. Give them a speech to make them smile, not one that will take til their first anniversary talk to you again! Being too drunk is a disaster waiting to happen.

So there they are, the 7 Deadly Sins of The Best Man Speech.

Avoid these at all cost and you will not provide the Rom-Com movie script writers of the future with any new material. You will have a very happy Bride and Groom and the admiration of all the wedding guests!

Want more powerful tips like these? Then now I would like to invite you to get your FREE Instant Access to a 20 minute recorded webinar (video) on Public Speaking for Best Man Speeches at http://www.bestmanspeeches.net/psme

From Steve Robbins – Author of Best Man Speeches Made Easy

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Best Man Speeches – The Deadly Sins You Need to Avoid – Part 1 of 2

on Dec 22 in Uncategorized

If you have ever watched a romantic-comedy movie, chances are you have seen a dodgy Best Man Speech. You know the ones…insulted bride…angry groom…silent, stunned room and the bumbling Best Man desperate to find the right words to fix it. Its fine for the movies, but in real life the aftermath will last for more than 97 minutes.

To make a good Best Man speech, its best to steer clear of the 7 most common mistakes that are found in those Rom-Com-type situations. I call them the 7 Deadly Sins, as there are 7 big no-no’s and the repercussions can be disastrous.

#1 Deadly Sin: Insulting the Bride

Well, you would think that this would be obvious, but the fact that is the #1 Deadly Sin means that unfortunately for Bride, Groom and every sensible guest in the room, it is more of a common mistake than you’d believe. Remember, ALWAYS, that the bride is the star. (Yes, put aside those thoughts that she is marrying your best friend!).

Definitely, do not say anything insulting or negative about the bride-even if you do believe it. There is a time and place for everything…this is not it!

Definitely, do not say anything about the Groom that will insult or embarrass the Bride. Talking about past indiscretions is a no-no. No matter how funny you think it is, remember…no insulting or embarrassing the Bride.

#2 Deadly Sin: Winging It

A few nice words here…a joke there…and a toast…right? Wrong! Don’t mistake the job of giving the Best Man Speech as just any old speech. Your Best Man speech is meant to summarize the first phase of your friends life, and usher in the next phase. It is impossible to give this the credit it deserves without having at least a plan or framework to go by.

Don’t risk humiliating yourself, and totally disappointing the Groom and his Bride by trying to think on the fly. It just won’t work. Prepare your speech and, please, practice it…out loud.

#3 Deadly Sin: Rambling On

Another good reason to prepare and practice your speech is to avoid rambling on…and on…and on. A short speech has more punch than a 20 minute retrospective. You are his best bud, you can chat later. The guests are there because of the Bride and Groom, not to listen to you all night.

They want to eat, drink and be merry, not hear about every bad habit, drunken episode, or how much he has helped you since the first time you met. Knowing when to stop is essential. As such, to avoid rambling on… and on… and on, let’s move on to the next deadly sin.

#4 Deadly Sin: Trying to Be a Stand-up Comic.

If you are a stand-up comic, great, be yourself. If you are not, don’t even go there…again, be yourself. Stay true to your personality style-it was good enough for the Groom to ask you to be Best Man. Just go with that. Guaranteed, the Groom is not going to expect you to suddenly become a different person with a different personality just for the sake of getting a comedy award-winning speech. That is not the purpose of the Best Man Speech. You would look awkward, and obvious and down-right uncomfortable trying to be something you are not.

Not only will you embarrass the Bride and Groom, you will embarrass yourself…and have it immortalized on DVD to replay over and over!

When you avoid these, you will not provide the Rom-Com movie script writers of the future with new material. You should also have a very happy Bride and Groom…and who knows, you may just get asked to be Best Man again!!!

Want more powerful tips like these? Then now I would like to invite you to get your FREE Instant Access to a 20 minute recorded webinar (video) on Public Speaking for Best Man Speeches at http://www.bestmanspeeches.net/psme

Writing a great best man speech is only half the battle. This Public Speaking Made Easy video outlines how you can deliver a winning Best Man Speech in front of the wedding guests, without fear or embarrassment.

From Steve Robbins – Author of Best Man Speeches Made Easy

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